I want you

Three little words, yet one small gesture with an enormous impact.

What is the difference between want vs need in relationship terms?

A want is a desire to be with a person, no strings or conditions attached. Wanting promotes a healthy relationship which aspires, motivates and encourages us to develop, change and grow. Whereas a need is a conditional requirement usually brought on by financial stability, fear of being alone, settling for less than what we deserve or a perceived obligation for children or parent(s).

What are the signs to look out for?

·       Fast moving relationships, especially when new

·       Feeling anxious when apart, rather than content

·       Feeling like you can’t live without this person

·       An increase in compromise, especially relating to your core values

·       Lack of encouragement and feed back on things that matter to you

I was once told, a relationship was like a butterfly. Hold it too tight and you will crush it. Let it go and you will see it fly, however the real beauty is seeing it return on its own free will.

What is sexier than a person telling you that they want to spend quality time with you? Yes, I agree there is a difference between saying ‘I want you’ and following through with actions. Ultimately a person who wants to be with you, will make the time. We currently live in a world which is full of daily commitments. Finding the time can be difficult, however in a relationship of wanting to be with one another, this will feel seamless and natural.

If you are at the stage of re-entering the dating world or re-assessing your position in a current relationship, remember you are not just the hand providing a solid platform. You are the butterfly.

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