Reasons

I originally started Phoenix2Warrior as I wanted to make a difference in supporting those going through separation. Whilst my own journey was testing at times, it made me realise how brutal separation can be. The mental and physical effects can be debilitating, not only to yourself but your children and those around you. However, I am a firm believer that YOU are the only person that can get yourself through this time. I am not saying you need to do this on your own, I mean the complete opposite. It is you who needs to recognise when you need help and how to get this.

I feel extremely lucky to be surrounded by people who love and support me. After my initial ‘drunken phase’, I started to think about those who were not as lucky. Those single mums who did not have the support which I experienced. Those people who were living in hell, 24/7. Hence, Phoenix2Warrior was born.

Separation can be devastating, however the lessons we learn turn us into stronger women. You should never be ashamed to seek help. My own psychologist (one kick ass lady) helped me through some fucked up shit. When I was completely shattered, she assisted me to put together the pieces. I use to leave her room feeling drained but empowered. Sometimes I would get out to the front gate, and the cloud would once again darken over me. It is important during the drunken phase to look after yourself and do as little as possible. Concentrate on doing the bare minimum. My goal was to accomplish 2 tasks per day, unless I was going to work as this was an accomplishment within itself!

This process, whilst frustrating, was necessary. Separation can be traumatic and can leave scars. You need to go easy on yourself during this time. Take baby steps. Don’t expect too much from yourself. In time, you will discover you are stronger than you realise. You will grow and rise from the ashes into a Warrior.

My goal this year is to make Phoenix2Warrior a name well known within the community. Through this, we can start to build a support base where all those requiring support can feel they are not alone. A platform where we can all relate, grow and empower one another. I encourage you to share your stories and make comments about things that have helped you get through your journey. It maybe the number of an awesome babysitter, masseuse, techniques to get through school drop off, meditation or sad moments. By sharing, we can help one another re-build and reassure those going through the drunken phase, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.